Her point seems to be that there is no 'perfect' way to decide; that
every item will mean something different to each person and that each
person/couple can decide as arbitrarily as they desire. I guess my
question is then, what's the use? If you can buy some things then how
do you limit yourself on others? Not just groceries but even
so.....do you say "We don't buy any spice blends" but do you still
keep a full rack of spices (to blend yourself)? Or do you just say
"We'll only use salt & pepper?" And hair gel; she said she had to
have hair gel but her husband couldn't have wine (he's part Italian
and really into it). But he did end up making his own. I don't know.
I'm as interested in the howto of this as I am the subject. It seems
like it could be so *(#...@ detailed and could cause an argument over
each and every little item. I won't belabor it. I agree with Audrey;
I think it was easier with it just being the two of them.
Jamie
As soon as I read your sentence about the hair gel and the wine, an
immediate red flag went up and I thought to myself, another person out
to make a buck. Those two things have nothing in common. She'll do the
book tours and the talk shows and people will give her money by buying
her book. If someone wants to save money they can look at the
Hutterites, my husband's relatives, and others like them. They are very
frugal and self is not important. Everything is purchased and done for
the greater good. They make almost all of their own clothes, farm and
raise their own food. The women do not wear makeup and don't know
anything about name brands. I'm not saying, however, that this is the
way everyone should be. This is an interesting topic for discussion.