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It sounds lovely – but I think the birthday idea is better.
I second this thought, especially since your dad and sister have asked you
not to do it for Christmas.
Smokey
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My mil passed away on August 31st. My husband had a picture of her
taken just before she was married. I had it touched up and copies made
for all of the family members whom I felt would care (16) and I will
send it out with my holiday cards. Yes, a photo may make them sad but
it will be one they will treasure and a thoughtful gift for you to give.
Give it to them on the 31st if you feel it would be a more appropriate
time. My husband's niece had the wedding photo of my mil and fil copied
and we were so happy to receive it. It is now in a prominent place in
the living room and it really brings smiles rather than tears.
Audrey
Question about gift for mom.
Mo...@poetic.com
12/1/2005 12:19:04 PM
Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
"jrogow" <jro...@newsguy.com>
12/1/2005 12:33:23 PM
<Mo...@poetic.com> wrote in message
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Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
It sounds lovely – but I think the birthday idea is better. going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
"v.rutgers" <isht...@home.nl>
12/1/2005 9:55:56 PM
Laura,
Your idea of a photo in the shamrock frame is really lovely. I think there
might be some tears, but not sad ones. Give it at Christmas and drink a
toast to your grandma on New Year's Eve.
We drink a champagne toast to my husband's grandmother on NYE every year––
it was her birthday too.
Happy holidays!
Circe
Who is wearing a forest green v–necked T–shirt, green tweed A–line skirt,
and cognac colored stack heeled boots with BIIIIG buckles at the ankle.
<Mo...@poetic.com> schreef in bericht
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Your idea of a photo in the shamrock frame is really lovely. I think there
might be some tears, but not sad ones. Give it at Christmas and drink a
toast to your grandma on New Year's Eve.
We drink a champagne toast to my husband's grandmother on NYE every year––
it was her birthday too.
Happy holidays!
Circe
Who is wearing a forest green v–necked T–shirt, green tweed A–line skirt,
and cognac colored stack heeled boots with BIIIIG buckles at the ankle.
<Mo...@poetic.com> schreef in bericht
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Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
"Smokey" <SmokeyinNewEngl...@yahooey.com>
12/1/2005 4:02:52 PM
"jrogow" <jro...@newsguy.com> wrote in message
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<Mo...@poetic.com> wrote in message
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It sounds lovely – but I think the birthday idea is better.
not to do it for Christmas.
Smokey
"val189" <gwehr...@bellsouth.net>
12/1/2005 1:31:46 PM
Mo...@poetic.com wrote:
My
is not that far back and it might be a bit too painful at Christmas.
On the other hand, I found a photo of my parents at their fiftieth
anniv. party, framed it and it's out where I see it every day. amd it
is seems have a healing effect. Best to tread gently in these matters
and comply with their wishes.
My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
I'd ask them when they think a more appropriate time would be. October it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
is not that far back and it might be a bit too painful at Christmas.
On the other hand, I found a photo of my parents at their fiftieth
anniv. party, framed it and it's out where I see it every day. amd it
is seems have a healing effect. Best to tread gently in these matters
and comply with their wishes.
Charlie Perrin <nikve...@sbcglobal.netNOSPAM>
12/2/2005 2:35:27 AM
On 1 Dec 2005 12:19:04 –0800, Mocha wrote:
––
Visit Charlie's Sneaker Pages!
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Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her.
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve?
I think it's a very appropriate gift and it will be appreciated. already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve?
––
Visit Charlie's Sneaker Pages!
http://sneakers.pair.com/
"ahmward" <nospam.ahmw...@yahoo.com>
12/1/2005 1:09:23 PM
<Mo...@poetic.com> wrote in message
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Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family
and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a
week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living
on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than
they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered
button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
Hi Laura going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family
and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a
week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living
on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than
they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered
button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
My mil passed away on August 31st. My husband had a picture of her
taken just before she was married. I had it touched up and copies made
for all of the family members whom I felt would care (16) and I will
send it out with my holiday cards. Yes, a photo may make them sad but
it will be one they will treasure and a thoughtful gift for you to give.
Give it to them on the 31st if you feel it would be a more appropriate
time. My husband's niece had the wedding photo of my mil and fil copied
and we were so happy to receive it. It is now in a prominent place in
the living room and it really brings smiles rather than tears.
Audrey
email...@gmail.com
12/2/2005 1:41:31 AM
Perhaps you could give it to your mother privately. Take her aside on
Christmas Eve and tell her you would like to give her this year's
"main" gift early. If she objects, tell her she will understand once
she opens it.
I think this will accomplish several things:
1) It will give you and your Mom a really nice and private moment
during the busy Christmas time that you can both share.
2) It *will* prevent others from being so directly reminded about the
loss that is on their mind. I know everyone is going to be thinking
about it, but if your father and sister have already told you they are
uncomfortable with the idea, perhaps this is a way to avoid upsetting
them.
I think your gift is a wonderful idea! On Christmas morning, you can
give your Mom a wrapped box of chocolates or candies (something small
like that) from a neat local place so she will have something to open.
If anyone asks, you can say that she already got her gift and the
family can see it later.
I did something similar for my Dad when his Mom died. I "copied" lots
of photos of his mother on one of those Kodak machines that scans and
makes real copies of photos. He had few pics of her, so I had my
Grandpa send all kinds out to me –– pics of her when she was a kid,
family photos, pics of her when she was older, etc.
It's not the same as getting someone a CD or a magazine subscription ––
it *is* upsetting. But in a good way, if you get me. And it's something
that will be cherished and loved for much longer than the average gift.
Uh, and to tie this in....a chocolate–brown velvet blazer with thin,
wide–spaced antique colored gold stripes. Hits just at the top of the
hip. It is sooo soft and not too dressy. Now I just have to find all
the other pieces....
Christmas Eve and tell her you would like to give her this year's
"main" gift early. If she objects, tell her she will understand once
she opens it.
I think this will accomplish several things:
1) It will give you and your Mom a really nice and private moment
during the busy Christmas time that you can both share.
2) It *will* prevent others from being so directly reminded about the
loss that is on their mind. I know everyone is going to be thinking
about it, but if your father and sister have already told you they are
uncomfortable with the idea, perhaps this is a way to avoid upsetting
them.
I think your gift is a wonderful idea! On Christmas morning, you can
give your Mom a wrapped box of chocolates or candies (something small
like that) from a neat local place so she will have something to open.
If anyone asks, you can say that she already got her gift and the
family can see it later.
I did something similar for my Dad when his Mom died. I "copied" lots
of photos of his mother on one of those Kodak machines that scans and
makes real copies of photos. He had few pics of her, so I had my
Grandpa send all kinds out to me –– pics of her when she was a kid,
family photos, pics of her when she was older, etc.
It's not the same as getting someone a CD or a magazine subscription ––
it *is* upsetting. But in a good way, if you get me. And it's something
that will be cherished and loved for much longer than the average gift.
Uh, and to tie this in....a chocolate–brown velvet blazer with thin,
wide–spaced antique colored gold stripes. Hits just at the top of the
hip. It is sooo soft and not too dressy. Now I just have to find all
the other pieces....
"Ruby" <rubywoo2...@yahoo.com>
12/2/2005 8:07:30 AM
Mo...@poetic.com wrote:
bringing up thoughts that wouldn't be present anyway...and in my
opinion, this type of item is a step in the right direction after the
death of a loved one. She obviously had a family who loved her, and
she lived a long life, in which she was priviledged to see her
grandchidren grow up. Unfortunately, many don't have that. If you
prefer, you could give each of her daughters the gift privately...but
remember, tip–toeing around the fact that she's gone doesn't make it
easier to get through the grieving process...
Background: my grandma passed away suddenly early in October. It's
going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
I think this would be a lovely gift...it's not like you will be going to be really difficult as this will be the first Christmas we've
celebrated without her. She lives within five minutes of my family and
was like a second mother to me, my sisters, and my two cousins while
growing up since we saw her every weekend and a couple of nights a week
for dinner.
That said, we'll be spending Christmas Eve at my aunt's (my mom's twin
sister who also lives five minutes away) home as usual. We're a very
close–knit family and as something a little extra, I wanted to give
them something in memory of my grandma (their mother), and think I
found something last night at Hallmark. It is a beautiful white
porcelain frame with green hand–painted shamrocks along the side (my
grandma was 100% Irish) and there is a quote about loved ones living on
in our hearts after they have left this world. I think it would be
really sentimental if I found an old photo of them with their mom and
put it in the frame.
My main worry is that I don't want to make anyone even sadder than they
already are, but I'm sure there will be tears shed regardless of this
gift being given. Is this an inappropriate extra gift to give on
Christmas Eve? Should I wait to give it to them on my grandma's
birthday which falls on December 31st or just skip it altogether? My
dad and sister both said that it would make them sad and not to bring
it up, but we're going to be crying together anyway and sharing
memories, so...I don't know what to do. Thanks in advance for any
replies!
To make this fashion–related, here is what I wore to do some Christmas
shopping yesterday before meeting up with my boyfriend:
– Old Navy chocolate, ivory, and cocoa tweed blazer with three
chocolate brown buttons down the front
– Banana Republic deep burgundy thinly ribbed tank with lace trim worn
under the blazer
– Express camel "Editor" microtwill pants with a pressed crease down
the front & slight flare at the hem
– Impo chocolate brown glossy kitten–heeled mules with a covered button
detail on the side
– Chocolate brown boho beaded necklace and silver Claddagh ring
– Banana Republic ivory boucle wool ladycoat + chocolate and camel
zebra–striped cashmere muffler with slightly fringed edges
––Laura
bringing up thoughts that wouldn't be present anyway...and in my
opinion, this type of item is a step in the right direction after the
death of a loved one. She obviously had a family who loved her, and
she lived a long life, in which she was priviledged to see her
grandchidren grow up. Unfortunately, many don't have that. If you
prefer, you could give each of her daughters the gift privately...but
remember, tip–toeing around the fact that she's gone doesn't make it
easier to get through the grieving process...