who walks down the isle ?

Hi,
I'm getting married. My friends are married, late 20's, early 30's, so
they can't be bridesmaids. My maid–of–honor is my sister who is not
married, so that's one good thing. I picked my parents friends daughters
and sons to be my bridesmaid, and groom's help, who are early 20's,
which I'm not really close with and not related. My mother wants to
walk, too but I don't know what will be her part. My father, ofcourse
will walk with me. The best man is still single, so that's good. My
flower girl is 2 years old. I need one more bridesmaid, but the one I
have in mind is only 11 or 12 years old but she's very tall.
I'm in big trouble. Any suggestions?
Thanks.

kelly wrote:
I don't understand why your <married> friends can't be bridesmaids?
Throw out the old traditions and have whomever you want in the ceremony.
just my 2c.

kelly wrote:
There are a bunch of wedding USENET groups, mailing lists, and online
bulletin boards where your question would be appropriate and on–topic.
Google, and Google Groups will help you find them.
Also bookstores and libraries have etiquette books you can consult if
you are truly worried about what is "proper."

"kelly" <ke...@some.com> wrote in message
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Mothers are escorted down the aisle before the bridal party.
Grandmothers are often escorted as well. My friend's daughter had her
11 year old sister as a bridesmaid and she looked beautiful. I would
agree with Jean that you should choose good friends to be your
bridesmaids and not worry about old traditions. What does the 40 year
or older woman do who is having her first wedding and wants a
traditional ceremony?
Audrey

On Mon, 14 Nov 2005 16:47:39 –0500, kelly wrote:
IIRC, back when my brothers got married when I was in high
school/college, my futurer SILs took THEIR sisters as bridesmaids.
So don't worry that much about old fussy tradition. Have who feels
right to you. It's supposed to be a big happy day anyway.
PS: I've heard of people wearing their favorite sneakers under the
wedding dress. That may be going too far for even me. <grin/duck>

kelly wrote:
My mom walked down the aisle with me and my dad.
My biggest suggestion to you is to make the wedding YOURS and your
financees. This is your day and hopefully your only wedding day.
Don't do what everyone else wants you to do! The hell with "should"
and bring on what you'd love to see. Who cares if someone is tall,
young, old or single??? A wedding is about love between the couple and
sharing it with your loved ones; friends and family. Keep reminding
yourself whose day it is!

kelly wrote:
I was "recently" married 2 1/2 years ago at a friend's house (where we
met, actually). I walked down the grand stair case alone and had Shawn
meet me halfway down the last set of stairs. We walked the "aisle"
together.
That solved everything.

notexactlyms.fashion wrote:
financee? Lol... was this some kind of slip ;)
I guess it is more preferable to be the financee than the financor...

mjoann wrote:
LOL, I guess I was thinking about paying the bills while I was
responding to the post :–)

kelly wrote:
Julie suggested that you ask these questions in marriage–oriented
groups, and I concur. But ... definitionally, I suppose that a married
woman cannot be a bridesMAID, since *maid* suggests unmarried. She can
be a bridal attendant, honor attendant, or some other term. No need to
exclude married women!
My maid–of–honor is my sister who is not
DH and I were married in a Conservative Jewish ceremony. DH walked
down the aisle, escorted by his father and step–mother (his mother is
deceased). My parents escorted my halfway down the aisle, then
continued on their own. DH met me there, and we walked to the chupah
together. That's our tradition.
The best man is still single, so that's good. My
Check with the place where you're getting married and your officiant.
Many don't permit flower girls that young.
I need one more bridesmaid, but the one I

kelly wrote:
I was 40+ when I got married, barefoot on the beach. My Dad walked me
about 40 feet closer to the sea, My Maid of honor has been married 20+
years and my best friend. Dont put people in your wedding for
appearances. Make it a wedding with meaning and nobody will forget it.
Good luck. If you think you are in big trouble you may be but not for
the reasons you are suggesting

Thanks all. I called my bestfriends right away, and asked them to be my
bridesmaids. They're more than happy. My mother will walk with me and my
father. And disregard all this pressures from everyone else.
Now what should should I wear, I like both the fitted, the and
ball–gown. I'm 5ft 100lbs. I'm short, so not all gown will look
good on me. I might look like a baby doll with ball–gown. I might
look like a flat bride with fitted gown.
Help?
iwantthisn...@gmail.com wrote:

"kelly" <ke...@some.com> wrote in message
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Ask Laurie when you see her posts. She is tiny too and has chosen a
gorgeous wedding dress for her wedding next spring. I am glad you are
making this the wedding you want with best friends and family.
Audrey