wedding attire question

I have to attend a wedding in August in New York. At first, it was
supposed to be a Friday night event, and I figured I could get away
with either my black sheath dress or my black lace sheath dress. I
know you're not supposed to wear black to a wedding, but I figured it
would be okay because it is an evening wedding, and, after all, this is
New York. Also, I've seen pictures from the last wedding involving my
fiance's family, and most of the women were wearing black dresses.
Now, it's looking like it's going to be an outdoor Saturday afternoon
wedding. The only thing I own that seems even remotely appropriate for
a hot Saturday afternoon is a little white/black sheath in a satin
cotton. It's white based with black trim around the neck and arm
holes, two thick black stripes going down the sides of the body and one
thick black stripe in the middle (hard to describe, but very cute).
It's a "mod" looking dress that I bought from Bebe a few years ago. I
would wear it with black leather slides and a little black bag. What
worries me about it is the fact that there is a lot of white in it.
Would this be considered inappropriate or competing with the bride?
Alt.fashion experts, please advise.
The only thing I can think of that would be appropriate for this type
of wedding is a little pastel colored suit (preferably with 3/4
sleeves) which I don't own. I really don't want to have to buy
anything for this wedding. I'd rather concentrate on the dress I'm
going to wear to my own wedding on an island somewhere, but if the
above–mentioned dress won't work, I need to know asap so I can start
looking around for an alternative.
Thanks in advance for all suggestions.
Shari

I have to attend a wedding in August in New York. At first, it was
supposed to be a Friday night event, and I figured I could get away
with either my black sheath dress or my black lace sheath dress. I
know you're not supposed to wear black to a wedding, but I figured it
would be okay because it is an evening wedding, and, after all, this is
New York. Also, I've seen pictures from the last wedding involving my
fiance's family, and most of the women were wearing black dresses.
Now, it's looking like it's going to be an outdoor Saturday afternoon
wedding. The only thing I own that seems even remotely appropriate for
a hot Saturday afternoon is a little white/black sheath in a satin
cotton. It's white based with black trim around the neck and arm
holes, two thick black stripes going down the sides of the body and one
thick black stripe in the middle (hard to describe, but very cute).
It's a "mod" looking dress that I bought from Bebe a few years ago. I
would wear it with black leather slides and a little black bag. What
worries me about it is the fact that there is a lot of white in it.
Would this be considered inappropriate or competing with the bride?
Alt.fashion experts, please advise.
The only thing I can think of that would be appropriate for this type
of wedding is a little pastel colored suit (preferably with 3/4
sleeves) which I don't own. I really don't want to have to buy
anything for this wedding. I'd rather concentrate on the dress I'm
going to wear to my own wedding on an island somewhere, but if the
above–mentioned dress won't work, I need to know asap so I can start
looking around for an alternative.
Thanks in advance for all suggestions.
Shari

sleepi8 wrote:
for
one
I The prohibition is that one does not wear a white dress to a wedding.
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.
Afternoon weddings are the least formal wedding, and a garden wedding
is even less formal, so I would not wear a suit to one. I would wear
(and have worn) a very "pretty" dress and a hat.
But if you're not willing to buy something else, then I guess it
doesn't really matter what I think. ;–)

sleepi8 wrote:
for
one
I The prohibition is that one does not wear a white dress to a wedding.
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.
Afternoon weddings are the least formal wedding, and a garden wedding
is even less formal, so I would not wear a suit to one. I would wear
(and have worn) a very "pretty" dress and a hat.
But if you're not willing to buy something else, then I guess it
doesn't really matter what I think. ;–)

sleepi8 wrote:
for
one
I The prohibition is that one does not wear a white dress to a wedding.
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.
Afternoon weddings are the least formal wedding, and a garden wedding
is even less formal, so I would not wear a suit to one. I would wear
(and have worn) a very "pretty" dress and a hat.
But if you're not willing to buy something else, then I guess it
doesn't really matter what I think. ;–)

sleepi8 wrote:
for
one
I The prohibition is that one does not wear a white dress to a wedding.
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.
Afternoon weddings are the least formal wedding, and a garden wedding
is even less formal, so I would not wear a suit to one. I would wear
(and have worn) a very "pretty" dress and a hat.
But if you're not willing to buy something else, then I guess it
doesn't really matter what I think. ;–)

Sounds OK to me. But, if you are going to worried the whole time that
you have the wrong dress on, maybe something else would be appropriate?
Do you have a pair of nice linen pants?
NM

Sounds OK to me. But, if you are going to worried the whole time that
you have the wrong dress on, maybe something else would be appropriate?
Do you have a pair of nice linen pants?
NM

Sounds OK to me. But, if you are going to worried the whole time that
you have the wrong dress on, maybe something else would be appropriate?
Do you have a pair of nice linen pants?
NM

Sounds OK to me. But, if you are going to worried the whole time that
you have the wrong dress on, maybe something else would be appropriate?
Do you have a pair of nice linen pants?
NM

The dress sounds fine. New York in August in the middle of the
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders, etc.
––Anne–Marie

The dress sounds fine. New York in August in the middle of the
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders, etc.
––Anne–Marie

The dress sounds fine. New York in August in the middle of the
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders, etc.
––Anne–Marie

The dress sounds fine. New York in August in the middle of the
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders, etc.
––Anne–Marie

jjjjjuliep writes:
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.<
Okay, this was my main concern because there's a lot of white in the
dress, but if that's the case, I guess I'll wear the little "mod' dress
after all. Problem solved. :) Thank you!

jjjjjuliep writes:
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.<
Okay, this was my main concern because there's a lot of white in the
dress, but if that's the case, I guess I'll wear the little "mod' dress
after all. Problem solved. :) Thank you!

jjjjjuliep writes:
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.<
Okay, this was my main concern because there's a lot of white in the
dress, but if that's the case, I guess I'll wear the little "mod' dress
after all. Problem solved. :) Thank you!

jjjjjuliep writes:
This doesn't mean one's dress can't have white in it.<
Okay, this was my main concern because there's a lot of white in the
dress, but if that's the case, I guess I'll wear the little "mod' dress
after all. Problem solved. :) Thank you!

sleepi8 wrote:
is
my
for
one
I What about a hat, though? If you're outdoors in summer, you're going
to want a hat. A white hat with a black ribbon would be cute.
I have to say that I would try to put some color in this––maybe with
red or cobalt bag, shoes, and maybe even hat.
Or red or cobalt jewelry––maybe some vintage lucite bangles and
earrings. Bright colors in the accessories will help the outfit seem
less funereal.
Have fun!
T.

sleepi8 wrote:
is
my
for
one
I What about a hat, though? If you're outdoors in summer, you're going
to want a hat. A white hat with a black ribbon would be cute.
I have to say that I would try to put some color in this––maybe with
red or cobalt bag, shoes, and maybe even hat.
Or red or cobalt jewelry––maybe some vintage lucite bangles and
earrings. Bright colors in the accessories will help the outfit seem
less funereal.
Have fun!
T.

sleepi8 wrote:
is
my
for
one
I What about a hat, though? If you're outdoors in summer, you're going
to want a hat. A white hat with a black ribbon would be cute.
I have to say that I would try to put some color in this––maybe with
red or cobalt bag, shoes, and maybe even hat.
Or red or cobalt jewelry––maybe some vintage lucite bangles and
earrings. Bright colors in the accessories will help the outfit seem
less funereal.
Have fun!
T.

sleepi8 wrote:
is
my
for
one
I What about a hat, though? If you're outdoors in summer, you're going
to want a hat. A white hat with a black ribbon would be cute.
I have to say that I would try to put some color in this––maybe with
red or cobalt bag, shoes, and maybe even hat.
Or red or cobalt jewelry––maybe some vintage lucite bangles and
earrings. Bright colors in the accessories will help the outfit seem
less funereal.
Have fun!
T.

Fashiondish writes:
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders,
etc.<
Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions!
I will definitely put sunscreen on, but trust me when I say that I am
NOT a hat person.
As far as adding color through accessories, it's just not me (though I
could see it working for someone else). I'd rather stick to the "mod"
theme. However, I expect to have a nice (self) tan by then, which will
set off the dress nicely.

Fashiondish writes:
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders,
etc.<
Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions!
I will definitely put sunscreen on, but trust me when I say that I am
NOT a hat person.
As far as adding color through accessories, it's just not me (though I
could see it working for someone else). I'd rather stick to the "mod"
theme. However, I expect to have a nice (self) tan by then, which will
set off the dress nicely.

Fashiondish writes:
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders,
etc.<
Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions!
I will definitely put sunscreen on, but trust me when I say that I am
NOT a hat person.
As far as adding color through accessories, it's just not me (though I
could see it working for someone else). I'd rather stick to the "mod"
theme. However, I expect to have a nice (self) tan by then, which will
set off the dress nicely.

Fashiondish writes:
afternoon = weather straight from hell. Seriously. Muggy and hot. So
dress light and enjoy yourself! You might add a hat––it could actually
help you keep cool––and don't forget sunscreen on back, shoulders,
etc.<
Thanks everyone for the advice and suggestions!
I will definitely put sunscreen on, but trust me when I say that I am
NOT a hat person.
As far as adding color through accessories, it's just not me (though I
could see it working for someone else). I'd rather stick to the "mod"
theme. However, I expect to have a nice (self) tan by then, which will
set off the dress nicely.