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"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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one I lost years ago without getting teary. The fact that other people have
to deal with other hard experiences doesn't diminish the pain of losing
someone you love, pet or human. I wish I had some ideas for getting through
that. However, I'm in the "get another one right away" school, especially
if you get one from a rescue place. It's not a replacement for the pet you
lost, but it will make you feel good that you are able to change another
dog's life for the better –– and maybe even save the dog's life –– and if
you pick carefully, you and the new pup will build a new but different and
great relationship. Friends of mine just adopted their sixth dog (the house
is wild), a lab rescue. She was very thin and scared, had been badly
mistreated. They've had her for three weeks and the difference in that
sweet dog is amazing.
Smokey
rescue dog (not ready to leave a foster home yet)....
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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'03 after a 4 year battle with Cushing's disease I thought I would cry even
more to see pictures of her. My family put a few pictures of her doing
silly things up around the house and they actually made me smile. And they
still do today.
Allow yourself a grieving period. I even had to allow myself time before I
was in the presence of other dogs (pet stores, friend's dogs...etc). Some
think that's a little silly, but a pet is part of your family and everyone
deals with loss in different ways.
~Liz
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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wear
that
rescues...
through
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been through it, and I know how hard it is.
I'm going to repost this. . . . I don't know the author, but I think it's
appropriate:
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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and I still miss her but know that she had a long and happy life. I think
it did help that we have another dog. If you're ready – I don't think there
would be a better cure than giving a dog who needed it, a good home.
take care,
Nancy, in northern Ontario
OT dog
lutach...@aol.com (Lutachris)
1/8/2005 1:03:20 PM
My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
"Ellen Brickman" <kine...@ptd.net>
1/8/2005 8:31:20 AM
I am so terribly sorry to hear this! It sounds like a long, full, loved
life.
I know what it is like to listen for the click of nails on hardwood or
linoleum and not hear it.
Almost every time we lost a pet, we've had more than one. I just used my
others as comforters. The one time we didn't have another dog, we
immediately got a new puppy. I know many people say to wait and give
yourself time to grieve – this may be necessary for some. I found that
another animal adds to the recovery process. It lets you remember all the
wonderful times and gives inner peace as you realize you are helping another
animal.
Please take care and know my thoughts are with you.
Ellen
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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life.
I know what it is like to listen for the click of nails on hardwood or
linoleum and not hear it.
Almost every time we lost a pet, we've had more than one. I just used my
others as comforters. The one time we didn't have another dog, we
immediately got a new puppy. I know many people say to wait and give
yourself time to grieve – this may be necessary for some. I found that
another animal adds to the recovery process. It lets you remember all the
wonderful times and gives inner peace as you realize you are helping another
animal.
Please take care and know my thoughts are with you.
Ellen
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
"Smokey" <SmokeyinNewEngl...@yahooey.com>
1/8/2005 10:15:59 AM
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
Aw, losing a pet is awful, I know. I still have a hard time talking about wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
one I lost years ago without getting teary. The fact that other people have
to deal with other hard experiences doesn't diminish the pain of losing
someone you love, pet or human. I wish I had some ideas for getting through
that. However, I'm in the "get another one right away" school, especially
if you get one from a rescue place. It's not a replacement for the pet you
lost, but it will make you feel good that you are able to change another
dog's life for the better –– and maybe even save the dog's life –– and if
you pick carefully, you and the new pup will build a new but different and
great relationship. Friends of mine just adopted their sixth dog (the house
is wild), a lab rescue. She was very thin and scared, had been badly
mistreated. They've had her for three weeks and the difference in that
sweet dog is amazing.
Smokey
"Stevie" <privilegemagaz...@charter.net>
1/8/2005 7:43:52 AM
Having gone through this myself a few years ago, please allow yourself some
grieving time. This animal was a part of your life and family.
I would suggest that if you want to think about getting a new dog, now's the
time to think about it and do some research.
also go for walks where you used to walk the dog if you did.......
and go visit friends with animals too to get that pet fix!
Stevie
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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grieving time. This animal was a part of your life and family.
I would suggest that if you want to think about getting a new dog, now's the
time to think about it and do some research.
also go for walks where you used to walk the dog if you did.......
and go visit friends with animals too to get that pet fix!
Stevie
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
CarolC...@aol.com
1/8/2005 8:33:48 AM
Lutachris wrote:
you and will be for a while. We went to more movies and got out of the
house more even if just to go for a long walk.
We put our Jessie down in February and waited until May before we went
to the Humane Society. There we found our loveable Cody, a golden
retriever mix. If you feel like you want to fill your home and heart
with another dog right away, then follow your heart. Good luck with
whatever you do and keep us posted.
Sending good thoughts your way.
Carol
My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but
he did wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I
know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well
to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
I am so sorry to hear about your much–loved dog. It's a tough time for you and will be for a while. We went to more movies and got out of the
house more even if just to go for a long walk.
We put our Jessie down in February and waited until May before we went
to the Humane Society. There we found our loveable Cody, a golden
retriever mix. If you feel like you want to fill your home and heart
with another dog right away, then follow your heart. Good luck with
whatever you do and keep us posted.
Sending good thoughts your way.
Carol
Lions...@webtv.net
1/8/2005 9:24:44 AM
Sorry to here of your loss. There is absolutely nothing that compares
to the unconditional love given by one's pet. They are always there,
you are their world. Your pet was so grateful to have had you as its
'parent'. We too lost our dog when she was 18 years old. We rescued her
when she was a pup and gave her to our son who was in the first grade at
the time. They grew up together, and it was as hard on him when she
passed as it was on us.
Mark
to the unconditional love given by one's pet. They are always there,
you are their world. Your pet was so grateful to have had you as its
'parent'. We too lost our dog when she was 18 years old. We rescued her
when she was a pup and gave her to our son who was in the first grade at
the time. They grew up together, and it was as hard on him when she
passed as it was on us.
Mark
syel...@aol.comnospam (Syeliab)
1/10/2005 3:46:13 AM
I truly understand how you feel. My beloved golden retrievor Bailey went to
Puppy Heaven last summer very suddenly, I sat in the office while they took
him for an ultrasound claiming how I was not going to put him down, and alas,
that's exactly what I had to do. Cancer, everywhere, no hope. Yes, it sucked.
Big time.
A month later, Enzo's dropped into our laps. We weren't looking for a dog so
fast, but like I said, he just dropped into our lap. A 3 1/2 month old golden
puppy, 1 of 15, tall, lanky smart. The rescue doesn't pick your dog but in
our case, they called and said he was ours if we wanted him. Of course, once
you saw all the legs and tail... what was not to love?
Enzo is our third golden... both him and Bailey came rather quickly to "replace
a loss" but both have made their own place in our hearts. I thought I would
never love another dog how I loved Bailey, but then came Enzo..... just goes to
show that love is endless.
It makes me teary eyed to write about my boys.....but better to be loved and
missed, than never to be loved.
So, I would say pick yourself up and get another dog. Not to replace your
beloved, but to add to the love. You wiill call him the old dog's name
occasionally, and that's understandable, but a new dog will win you heart soon
enough.
–
–
Carol–
(remove Nospam to email)
Puppy Heaven last summer very suddenly, I sat in the office while they took
him for an ultrasound claiming how I was not going to put him down, and alas,
that's exactly what I had to do. Cancer, everywhere, no hope. Yes, it sucked.
Big time.
A month later, Enzo's dropped into our laps. We weren't looking for a dog so
fast, but like I said, he just dropped into our lap. A 3 1/2 month old golden
puppy, 1 of 15, tall, lanky smart. The rescue doesn't pick your dog but in
our case, they called and said he was ours if we wanted him. Of course, once
you saw all the legs and tail... what was not to love?
Enzo is our third golden... both him and Bailey came rather quickly to "replace
a loss" but both have made their own place in our hearts. I thought I would
never love another dog how I loved Bailey, but then came Enzo..... just goes to
show that love is endless.
It makes me teary eyed to write about my boys.....but better to be loved and
missed, than never to be loved.
So, I would say pick yourself up and get another dog. Not to replace your
beloved, but to add to the love. You wiill call him the old dog's name
occasionally, and that's understandable, but a new dog will win you heart soon
enough.
–
–
Carol–
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lutach...@aol.com (Lutachris)
1/10/2005 7:44:13 AM
If you're ready – I don't think there
would be a better cure than giving a dog who needed it, a good home.
working on that....there is a puppy (not ready to leave home yet...) and a would be a better cure than giving a dog who needed it, a good home.
rescue dog (not ready to leave a foster home yet)....
"jaffacake" <newsgro...@marshmallow.co.uk>
1/8/2005 4:14:38 PM
So sorry to hear your news... it's so hard when you lose a pet – it feels so
lonely and quiet at home and a big part of your day–to–day routine just
disappears.
People cope in different ways – some will get a new dog (don't think of it
as a replacement, it's not, they're all different) – my Dad did each time we
lost our dogs and that definitely helped ease the upset for all the family,
of course we never forgot about our first dogs and all the great memories.
I no longer live at home, but when I moved to my own place it was so quiet
and I just had to get a dog... somehow they bring the home to life!
Other people say they'd never get another pet because of the upset and grief
you go through when they pass away... I think that's a shame – I think of
all the good things and the fact that we've given a good home to all our
dogs (all of ours have been rescues).
After our first dogs passed away we created an album of all the pictures we
had of them – there's an album for each of them... putting an album together
really helped and it is in the drawer with all our other albums on weddings,
children, etc.
Lisa
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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lonely and quiet at home and a big part of your day–to–day routine just
disappears.
People cope in different ways – some will get a new dog (don't think of it
as a replacement, it's not, they're all different) – my Dad did each time we
lost our dogs and that definitely helped ease the upset for all the family,
of course we never forgot about our first dogs and all the great memories.
I no longer live at home, but when I moved to my own place it was so quiet
and I just had to get a dog... somehow they bring the home to life!
Other people say they'd never get another pet because of the upset and grief
you go through when they pass away... I think that's a shame – I think of
all the good things and the fact that we've given a good home to all our
dogs (all of ours have been rescues).
After our first dogs passed away we created an album of all the pictures we
had of them – there's an album for each of them... putting an album together
really helped and it is in the drawer with all our other albums on weddings,
children, etc.
Lisa
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
"Liz R" <nospamthank...@nospam.com>
1/8/2005 12:48:48 PM
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
Put up pictures of your dog. When mine had to be put down in the summer of '03 after a 4 year battle with Cushing's disease I thought I would cry even
more to see pictures of her. My family put a few pictures of her doing
silly things up around the house and they actually made me smile. And they
still do today.
Allow yourself a grieving period. I even had to allow myself time before I
was in the presence of other dogs (pet stores, friend's dogs...etc). Some
think that's a little silly, but a pet is part of your family and everyone
deals with loss in different ways.
~Liz
slee...@aol.com (Sleepi8)
1/8/2005 10:17:13 PM
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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wear
that
rescues...
through
I'm going to repost this. . . . I don't know the author, but I think it's
appropriate:
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of Heaven is a place called The Rainbow
Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially
close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all our special friends so
they can run and play together. There is plenty of food,
water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and
comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill or old are restored to
health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are
made whole and strong again, just as we remember them
in our dreams of days gone by. The animals are happy
and content, except for one small thing; they each miss
someone very special to them who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when
one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright
eyes are intent; his eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins
to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs
carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special
friend finally meet, you cling to each other in joyous
reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain
upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved
head and you look once more into the trusting eyes of
your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent
from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together...
Just this side of Heaven is a place called The Rainbow
Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially
close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all our special friends so
they can run and play together. There is plenty of food,
water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and
comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill or old are restored to
health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are
made whole and strong again, just as we remember them
in our dreams of days gone by. The animals are happy
and content, except for one small thing; they each miss
someone very special to them who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when
one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright
eyes are intent; his eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins
to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs
carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special
friend finally meet, you cling to each other in joyous
reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain
upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved
head and you look once more into the trusting eyes of
your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent
from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together...
"Nancy" <vealw...@shaw.ca>
1/8/2005 9:16:31 PM
"Lutachris" <lutach...@aol.com> wrote in message
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My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did
wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
My deepest sympathies. We lost our Muffin this past spring after 15 years wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know
that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and
rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting
through
this dogless period?
and I still miss her but know that she had a long and happy life. I think
it did help that we have another dog. If you're ready – I don't think there
would be a better cure than giving a dog who needed it, a good home.
take care,
Nancy, in northern Ontario
syel...@aol.comnospam (Syeliab)
1/13/2005 5:35:37 PM
Like another poster said, nothing is better than sharing your love with another
dog who needs it. Personally, I favor rescue groups, only because everyone
loves puppy, but the ones from the rescue groups need love and home,too.
We lost my big boy Bailey this summer. Very sudden, very sad. Didn't plan on
getting another dog quickly, but then Enzo fell into our laps. Another big
golden who I think is aiming for Great Dane size! HIs size was daunting for
most people, but he's perfect for us.
Enzo didn't replace Bailey. I still miss the big lug, but that's ok.
–
–
Carol–
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dog who needs it. Personally, I favor rescue groups, only because everyone
loves puppy, but the ones from the rescue groups need love and home,too.
We lost my big boy Bailey this summer. Very sudden, very sad. Didn't plan on
getting another dog quickly, but then Enzo fell into our laps. Another big
golden who I think is aiming for Great Dane size! HIs size was daunting for
most people, but he's perfect for us.
Enzo didn't replace Bailey. I still miss the big lug, but that's ok.
–
–
Carol–
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"ahmward" <nospam.ahmw...@yahoo.com>
1/8/2005 5:09:16 PM
Lutachris
You have my deepest sympathy. I think you need to go through a period
of mourning and you will know when the time is right to adopt another
wonderful dog. My neighbors thought there would be no replacement for
their beloved dog but eventually they found a wonderful pet that was a
senior adoption rescue. It was a perfect match for the owners and the
dog.
Audrey
You have my deepest sympathy. I think you need to go through a period
of mourning and you will know when the time is right to adopt another
wonderful dog. My neighbors thought there would be no replacement for
their beloved dog but eventually they found a wonderful pet that was a
senior adoption rescue. It was a perfect match for the owners and the
dog.
Audrey
Taffy Cheerful <ta...@cheerful.com>
1/9/2005 2:31:23 AM
"Lutachris" lutach...@aol.com wrote:
seem to keep the ones that are too old to place. We therefore
experience your situation more often than most people. It does
not seem to get easier and I think this is fortunate. Were it
to become easy to lose one, it means that we have not opened our
hearts to the critter or our heart had become insensitive and
that would be a very bad thing...
The one thing I have found to really help in getting through
the loss is to focus on all of the joy that your dog brought to
your life. Sit down and write an obituary for your dog, telling
about all of the happy memories, the cute things he did and any
mischief he got into.
Reviewing the story of the Rainbow Bridge and picturing what it
will be like when you and he are reunited helps us a lot...
Once again, my condolences...
Taffy
––
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"Growing old is inevitable; growing up is optional..."
My 16 yr old dog has become history. I know that other people
have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies
and rescues... Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any
other ideas for getting through this dogless period?
My most heartfelt condolences. We do basset hound rescue and have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies
and rescues... Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any
other ideas for getting through this dogless period?
seem to keep the ones that are too old to place. We therefore
experience your situation more often than most people. It does
not seem to get easier and I think this is fortunate. Were it
to become easy to lose one, it means that we have not opened our
hearts to the critter or our heart had become insensitive and
that would be a very bad thing...
The one thing I have found to really help in getting through
the loss is to focus on all of the joy that your dog brought to
your life. Sit down and write an obituary for your dog, telling
about all of the happy memories, the cute things he did and any
mischief he got into.
Reviewing the story of the Rainbow Bridge and picturing what it
will be like when you and he are reunited helps us a lot...
Once again, my condolences...
Taffy
––
Girl's classic fashions of the 50s & 60s –– jump.to/taffy
Fashion Site: http://www.geocities.com/FashionAvenue/1492
Doll Album: http://www.imagestation.com/album/?id=4292475957
Doll Faces: http://www.imagestation.com/album/?id=4289155609
"Growing old is inevitable; growing up is optional..."
Bess <bessgl...@mindspring.com>
1/9/2005 3:12:11 AM
Lutachris wrote:
have my deepest sympathy and empathy. I'd say let yourself grieve,
losing a pet is a real loss.
If you can, I'd find another young dog or puppy.
Bess
My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
Since my dogs are politely called 'privledged' and I adore them, you a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
have my deepest sympathy and empathy. I'd say let yourself grieve,
losing a pet is a real loss.
If you can, I'd find another young dog or puppy.
Bess
Ruddell <ruddell'Elle–Kabo...@canada.com>
1/9/2005 3:55:44 AM
In <MPG.1c4a359d8122f381989...@news.sf.sbcglobal.net> Taffy Cheerful
wrote:
dogs right now. The last one we lost was such a dear friend so we know
it's like losing a member of the family. Have two dogs is nice though
as the remaining one helps you through it because that dog as you feels
the loneliness.
Shortly after we had Molly put down we acquired another dog which is now
the young one. The old young one is now the new old one and realized
right away the change in roles. But we never forget our dogs and as
you say, focusing on the joy, that really helps...
––
Cheers
Dennis
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wrote:
My most heartfelt condolences. We do basset hound rescue and
seem to keep the ones that are too old to place. We therefore
experience your situation more often than most people. It does
not seem to get easier and I think this is fortunate. Were it
to become easy to lose one, it means that we have not opened our
hearts to the critter or our heart had become insensitive and
that would be a very bad thing...
The one thing I have found to really help in getting through
the loss is to focus on all of the joy that your dog brought to
your life. Sit down and write an obituary for your dog, telling
about all of the happy memories, the cute things he did and any
mischief he got into.
Reviewing the story of the Rainbow Bridge and picturing what it
will be like when you and he are reunited helps us a lot...
Once again, my condolences...
And condolences from us as well. We too are dog lovers and have two seem to keep the ones that are too old to place. We therefore
experience your situation more often than most people. It does
not seem to get easier and I think this is fortunate. Were it
to become easy to lose one, it means that we have not opened our
hearts to the critter or our heart had become insensitive and
that would be a very bad thing...
The one thing I have found to really help in getting through
the loss is to focus on all of the joy that your dog brought to
your life. Sit down and write an obituary for your dog, telling
about all of the happy memories, the cute things he did and any
mischief he got into.
Reviewing the story of the Rainbow Bridge and picturing what it
will be like when you and he are reunited helps us a lot...
Once again, my condolences...
dogs right now. The last one we lost was such a dear friend so we know
it's like losing a member of the family. Have two dogs is nice though
as the remaining one helps you through it because that dog as you feels
the loneliness.
Shortly after we had Molly put down we acquired another dog which is now
the young one. The old young one is now the new old one and realized
right away the change in roles. But we never forget our dogs and as
you say, focusing on the joy, that really helps...
––
Cheers
Dennis
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"Cherie" <cedgewo...@copper.net>
1/8/2005 10:59:12 PM
I am so sorry for your loss, you have my deepest sympathy.
When I was a teenager I lost my childhood dog, Susie. I had gotten her when
I was a toddler. She passed away during the night while I was away at a
friends family's lakehouse. I was devastated when I got home. I wanted to
get another dog but my parents thought we should wait.
For some getting a new dog right away is good, for others waiting longer is
what is needed. Do whats best for you. And again you have my deepest
heartfelt sympathies.
––
Cherie
When I was a teenager I lost my childhood dog, Susie. I had gotten her when
I was a toddler. She passed away during the night while I was away at a
friends family's lakehouse. I was devastated when I got home. I wanted to
get another dog but my parents thought we should wait.
For some getting a new dog right away is good, for others waiting longer is
what is needed. Do whats best for you. And again you have my deepest
heartfelt sympathies.
––
Cherie
Katie <sphyrapi...@fakeaddress.com>
1/10/2005 3:26:21 AM
On 08 Jan 2005 13:03:20 GMT, lutach...@aol.com (Lutachris) wrote:
sorry to hear about your dog :(
Katie
My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
I don't have any advice for you but I just wanted to say that I'm so a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
sorry to hear about your dog :(
Katie
Chris Braun <braun_ch...@mindspring.com>
1/11/2005 1:54:39 AM
On 08 Jan 2005 13:03:20 GMT, lutach...@aol.com (Lutachris) wrote:
suggestions –– just that I can promise you it gets easier with time.
You will know when and if it's time for a new puppy.
Chris
My 16 yr old dog has become history. (No fashion angle to this, but he did wear
a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
I'm sorry. I know how it feels to lose a pet. I don't have any great a blue dog sweater fairly frequently in the final months.) Anyway, I know that
other people have bigger tragedies, but I am not adjusting too well to his
departure, though I have been half heartedly looking at puppies and rescues...
Besides buying myself a new wardrobe(!), any other ideas for getting through
this dogless period?
suggestions –– just that I can promise you it gets easier with time.
You will know when and if it's time for a new puppy.
Chris
Melissa Wagner <meli...@melissa–wagner.com>
1/10/2005 8:49:56 PM
I'm sorry too. It's so painful to lose a loved pet. We lost our 10
year old black lab this fall. We ended up with a puppy from a rescue
organization – it helped fill the void and also we felt really good
about "saving" a dog that needed a home.
It's an awful awful thing to go through. Pamper yourself and do what
you need to do to get through.
Chris Braun wrote:
year old black lab this fall. We ended up with a puppy from a rescue
organization – it helped fill the void and also we felt really good
about "saving" a dog that needed a home.
It's an awful awful thing to go through. Pamper yourself and do what
you need to do to get through.
Chris Braun wrote:
On 08 Jan 2005 13:03:20 GMT, lutach...@aol.com (Lutachris) wrote:
I'm sorry. I know how it feels to lose a pet. I don't have any great
suggestions –– just that I can promise you it gets easier with time.
You will know when and if it's time for a new puppy.
Chris
I'm sorry. I know how it feels to lose a pet. I don't have any great
suggestions –– just that I can promise you it gets easier with time.
You will know when and if it's time for a new puppy.
Chris
Stacy Ferguson <stac...@stacyef.net>
1/11/2005 10:49:19 AM
Lutachris, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Having lost three dogs in
the last 6 years, I can understand how difficult it is. I had
deliberately staggered having two dogs at a time so that I'd have one
younger than the other and wouldn't be without a Border Collie at any
time. To my shock, I lost my first Border Collie and lost the younger,
second one the next year to a very acute and unexpected illness
(autoimmune hemolytic anemia). It was very difficult. Even the little
things like leaving a bit of chicken on the floor that I had
accidentally dropped while eating dinner could be upsetting. I'm so used
to canine vacuum cleaners gladly cleaning food up for me that forgetting
about it and finding the chicken on the floor two hours later would
induce a long crying jag.
Only you can decide when you'll be ready to get a new pet. I don't think
that everyone responds the same way. Some people are disappointed in new
dogs because they're still grieving and the newcomer, behaving nothing
like the late pet, isn't fully appreciated for what he is and that's not
fair to the new dog or pup. In my case, I've become used to Border
Collies all having very different personalities and their own, unique
idiosyncratic behaviors and since I love(d) them all, it has made it
easier for me to find a place in my heart for a new one even while I'm
still grieving.
Stacy
the last 6 years, I can understand how difficult it is. I had
deliberately staggered having two dogs at a time so that I'd have one
younger than the other and wouldn't be without a Border Collie at any
time. To my shock, I lost my first Border Collie and lost the younger,
second one the next year to a very acute and unexpected illness
(autoimmune hemolytic anemia). It was very difficult. Even the little
things like leaving a bit of chicken on the floor that I had
accidentally dropped while eating dinner could be upsetting. I'm so used
to canine vacuum cleaners gladly cleaning food up for me that forgetting
about it and finding the chicken on the floor two hours later would
induce a long crying jag.
Only you can decide when you'll be ready to get a new pet. I don't think
that everyone responds the same way. Some people are disappointed in new
dogs because they're still grieving and the newcomer, behaving nothing
like the late pet, isn't fully appreciated for what he is and that's not
fair to the new dog or pup. In my case, I've become used to Border
Collies all having very different personalities and their own, unique
idiosyncratic behaviors and since I love(d) them all, it has made it
easier for me to find a place in my heart for a new one even while I'm
still grieving.
Stacy
"Trianna" <triannadun...@hotmail.com>
1/11/2005 12:33:18 PM
I think you need to give yourself permission to grieve! Unfortunately,
our society isn't that good at letting people grieve the losses of any
loved companion––human or animal––so making the space for yourself to
grieve is important.
I really recommend the book "The Loss of a Pet" by Wallace Sife.
And my sympathy to you. I know you must miss your dog terribly, but 16
years is a long, full life and I can tell that he was truly loved.
T.
our society isn't that good at letting people grieve the losses of any
loved companion––human or animal––so making the space for yourself to
grieve is important.
I really recommend the book "The Loss of a Pet" by Wallace Sife.
And my sympathy to you. I know you must miss your dog terribly, but 16
years is a long, full life and I can tell that he was truly loved.
T.