OT and sad, but short, I promise

Yesterday, I found out that in May, my uncle, my Mom's older
brother, was given access to my Mom's and grandmother's bank
account so he could write the 3 monthly house–hold bills due
that weren't already being automatically drafted from the
account itself (my Mom and her Mother live together and for
all practical purposes share the same household acct.)
In a bank statement my Mom received the other day, she learned
that, in only 3 months, he has withdrawn $8000 and written checks
to himself. He has stolen much of my Grandmother's retirement,
and nearly all my Mother's.
I know that recently, Joeinsofla and Jjjjjulie had asked
the group in general to please at least stick to light–
hearted subjects if we just HAD to post an OT, but regardless
of their request, many of us *do* support each other here
when one of us finds him– or herself in a painful crisis,
so I'm posting this for those who *do* have the compassion
and sympathy in their hearts to acknowledge another poster's
days of pain and crisis. Much is already being done to deny
him access to *any* accounts, but they've still got another
week or so to go before they have all the documentation put
together for the court battle that will probably be inevitable.
Thx for listening (reading.)

kayper wrote:
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I'm speechless. To think that he did this to his own family. Has he had
a reputation for this type of behavior in the past? Your poor mother
and grandmother (literally and figuratively). What was his response when
he was caught? Did he try to rationalize his actions? I hope the
courts give him what his deserves.
My thoughts are with you and your mother and grandmother.
pcb

I too am speechless honey...I hope that they will both be able to recover this,
even if it and I hate to say this have to resort to the legal profession as
well as the Police for Grand Theft.
I can totally relate...my father once was a very, very successful businessman
in LA...chain of grocery stores, supper clubs, President of one of the premier
country clubs etc...he was doing extremly well and his family wasn't so he
brought in several of his brothers to work for him and they and his exwife
ended up taking him to the cleaners...He trusted them. When the one decent
brother passed away his jerk brothers had the wills rewritten when Sal was
blind by the Diabetes and they took everything...my father God rest his soul
was a kind and loving man and to this day, my mother refuses to speak to his
brothers, their family nor do I. Even my half–sister had the balls to call
after my father passed away wanting to know what was left to her...sheesh after
all that we had done for her through the years.
And they say you only hurt the ones you love...sometimes life just sucks you
know!!
Love, laughter and friendship
Lisa in Dallas
www.beautycafe.com

In article <20030828131623.23411.00000...@mb–m19.aol.com>,
beautyc...@aol.comnospam says...
Guess it's tough to accept that those close to you will rob you blind.
When my dad passed away my sister & brother & myself just didn't know
what to do with his house. My sister was *thinking* of moving into it
but the memories/etc were just too much at the time.
Then along comes an old friend of the family who just happened to be
looking for a place. Well, how convenient we thought.
This guy was close to my dad and good friends to us kids. So I charged
him $200.00/month rent. Just to have someone in the place and cover the
taxes.
Yeah, you guessed it. He got months behind in the rent and I had to
throw him out as I just don't like being used. Not as serious as yours
& kaper's stories, but just the same frustrating.
We sold the house btw...
––
Dennis
http://www.ejacanada.com
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pcb wrote:
Yes, in a way. I suppose if you take into acct the $$$ his parents
gave him to bail out of his many failed businesses, then the credit
card(s) they gave him to use as if he were a college freshman with
the bills still coming to them to pay for, after this latest stunt
the total amount would probably run between $50 or $60K.
OB Fash: His wife's favorite designer is Donna Karan/DKNY, and she
carries THE EXACT SAME Ferragamo bag I first loved! I even bought it,
but returned it the next day with a bad case of buyers' remorse.
We are all doing everything we can, and we have friends and family
members in both law and law enforcement. Thx for everyone's kindness,
but I don't want to get bawled–out at again for being not only off–topic
but gloomy and long–winded. I will be more than happy to hear from
anyone in private email. thx again.

fig wrote:
I agree. this is terrible, and I hope everyone recovers as much as is
humanly possible.
–Diane

ugh... having had a similar relative pull a similar stunt in my family, i can
empathize and hope this guy gets the karma he deserves for being so evil.

"kayper" <kar...@comcast.net> wrote in message
news:b5q3b.217811$cF.71...@rwcrnsc53...
I am so sorry. My mother and I have family members that are just like that,
and it is so stressful. I can't understand how people can share so many of
the same genes and yet they may as well be aliens. Try not to be too upset
about it though, I know its easier said than done, but this will all settle
fairly in court. I know there are lots of jokes and everything about the
legal system, but it is largely based on the principle of equity, and no
judge is going to think what your uncle did was appropriate, just, or
acceptable.
It's weird, my dad's mother died recently and left an enormous estate. My
dad and his siblings have basically no relationship with each other.. not
for bad reasons, they just aren't close at all because of huge age
differences. They settled the estate themselves, with no lawyer, and
everything went smooth as silk. My mom's disgusting family members,
however, squabbled and spit and screamed bloody murder over a pathetic
estate of $12K split three ways. What the hell? I will never understand
how bizarre money makes some people behave... that you can be related to
people, know them your whole lives, but its worth $4k to them to destroy the
relationships they've had since they were children.
Some may feel differently, but my opinion on people like this is that losing
the relationship is better than keeping someone that evil in your life. I
would call the police and have them arrested for theft, as well as sue them
in civil court. People who take advantage of the elderly and vulnerable
belong in a special circle of hell.
Jennifer